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Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Don't give up, just stand up!
From my point of view, we need to keep on reminding ourselves about the following...
How hurt is it when we fail? How those around us treat us when we fail? How our beloved family members feel when we fail? We have to always keep all these feeling in our mind until we died so that we are always be aware of the feeling of disappointment, hurt, and perhaps guilty and looked down by others. When we are aware of all of these, we can always do our best in everything we do to avoid failure.
After all, we need to stand up and go on. Never let failure to slow us down. We know how hurt is it when we meet with failure. We know how our beloved feel when we fail. and... we know how our friends look at us when we fail.
When I was alone in a park few days ago, there was a scene about a child fell down accidentally while running, he quickly stood up and acted as nothing had took place and keep on running. Why a small kid like him was able to stand up immediately after he fell down but a strong and hard adult unable to stand up once he or she fall down in his or her life?! Some might say that it is just an easy job for the kid to stand up again after the fall, if they were that kid they are able to do so too. However, when comes to their failure in exam or business or in their lives respectively, why can't they just stand up after all? As we grow up, our strength and abilities to achieve higher goal and complete tougher task also increase, thus, we should be able to face all the tasks or failure in our lives without any excuse. If we are able to get 100% when we were in kindergarten, so we should be able to obtain 100% when we are in university. We cannot deny that tests might go harder but we do have more time to prepare and do gain more knowledge, experience more things as we grow older. In short, we are able to achieve what we had achieved in the past (in the sense of exam mark). It is all just depend on our will.
"Don't let failure stop us' but to make us stronger!"
Thursday, December 18, 2008
'Find Your Position'...
Life is just like a stage and everybody have their own role. To succeed in life, one has to play it role well and to achieve this one has to find out what is his or her role. A person without knowing what is his or her role will not play his or her part well as one cannot concentrate on it. Thus, after knowing the roles that ones have to play, ones have to pay full attention on it in order to perform well. A person with aims is less likely to give up and is enthusiastic in his or her life. Apart from that, targets have to be set according to one abilities. In addition, all the aims or target have to be reviewed or reconsider after a period of time. This does not mean to put that particular target aside but to reconsider its probability to be achieved after a period of time. Knowing our roles in lives, we can play our part well in this huge stage and be a successful person in life.
After setting targets or aims, we need to act confidently. We need to be able to face all the challenges and overcome all the problems that rose on our path to achieve our target. We have to start it by the day we set the target so that we will not lose interest on it. Besides, we have to dare to take the first step if not, we will never obtain what we dream of. We have to be confident and careful in every single step we take so that we can always be on the right path. In addition, the most dangerous thing on our path to success is fear to take risks.
We need to look up on ourselves in or the to grab all the opportunities. If we are shy or fear to take risks, then we are unlikely to win. We have to set our mind and aim straight on our goal so that we will move forward to our target. If we look down on ourselves, we will miss opportunities to success. Furthermore, we must not be the 'pray' of others opinions. We have to trust on ourselves that we are right and never give up just due to just what others think or their negative comments. Do not let others 'impossible' stop us from moving forward.
Apart from that, we have to give ourselves correct positive psychological signal in order to make our dreams come true. Over impersonating others will make us lost. We have to think positively and believe that we are able to hit the target. We have to forget the past as it is not equal to future, yet, we still need to learn from the past and always remind ourselves not to repeat the same mistakes again.
Last but not least, we have to keep on achieve our goals and set a new one so that our lives can always be wonderful. We have to be able to control our emotion so that we can think logically and correctly always and able to decide precisely the time to stop and to move on. When we are in the down, we need to think positively and work harder than usual. At this point, we need to hold tightly on our believe and aims.
"Never give up! Just STAND UP!"
buLLy...
“I… only...”
“You what?! Faster! Come on, I need to read it now!”
“but.. I have yet to..."
"TO WHAT?!"
"K... then...”
“THANKS...”
This is one of the most recent and common ways borrow things amongst young student in school. Indirectly, this show that the sign of bullying is at an alarming rate and it is the high time for all of us to curb with it. However, most of the victim does not realize that they are being bullied. According to the Cambridge Dictionary Online, the term ‘bully’ stands for someone who hurts or frightens someone who is smaller or less powerful than them, often forcing them to do what they do not want to do. In this case the student in italic had been force to “lend” his ‘friend’ the book he has. But, don’t you think that another student is bullying the student in italic? Though there is stressed ‘thanks’ there, but do you think that it can be consider as a proper or sincere way to express to someone that you are pleased about or appreciate something that they have done?? I, personally, vote for the opposite.
In my opinion that is a bullying case happening. Although it might seem minor to some of you, yet I believe that this is the hint or sign for severe case to take place in future. Of course most importantly is how we are going to cease this phenomenon. In my opinion, I would like to state that the most basic step is to expose students about what can be consider as bully no matter minor one or the major.
Sign of bully includes students give unreliable excuses for not going to school such as stomachache. Parent, counselor and teacher play a major role here. They should inform student about types of the bully and also how to handle them. We cannot deny that most of the parents and teacher nowadays are also lack of idea and experience in doing so. So, I would like to suggest that they attend specific seminars that launch by the professional. Apart from that, both parents and teachers should put their hand together in order to solve this problem. Parents should pay more attention to their children on their current progression. To do this, there must be a positive communication among parents and children so that children are willing to share their stories with parents. Parents must show sympathy towards their children who are being bullied instead of scolding them for being weak or bullied. If the student are being scolded or punished due to this, it is certain that they will not inform their parents when they are being bullied again. Once parents found out that their lovely children being bullied, teachers should be informed immediately so that they can pay more attention on those being bullied.
So, for those who were keep on bullying others, stop bullying now! For those who are being bullied, voice it out, tell your parents or teachers. Bear in mind that everyone in this wonderful Earth has an equal chance and right to live. No one should be bullied nor bully others. Proper channels should be introduced by government such as counseling activities and seminar for both parents and teachers on which are the sensible ways to stop bully. Now is the prime time to stop this phenomenon as preventing is better that curing.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
fRieNd...
are those who understand us;
are those who trust us;
are those who respect us;
are those who help us;
are those who share ups and downs with us;
^>^ and of course...
are those who will betray us one day...?
"treat others just as the way you want to be treated..."
Monday, December 15, 2008
workplace stress...
According to her (what i overheard), there was no customer visited her section which situated at the corner.. and she is going to get '0' for her 8-hours standing for the whole day... but what ran in my mind is that it is not her fault because the clothes in her section is much more expensive relative to others...
In my opinion, this is a situation which shows workplace stress. Not only long working hours but also unreasonably high expectation will bring to health problems, stress and sleepiness in workplace. In this case, the promoter has to stand at her section for 8 hours for six day per week. In addition, she is expected to sell some clothes per day ( i am not sure with the target). Indirectly, this will raise stress level of the promoter and bring to severe health problems in near future. Workplace stress might bring to insomnia consequently will bring to low productivity. So, boss or employer should take care of the employees welfare in order to create a positive working environment for not only for the benefits of the workers but also for the sake of company's productivity.
"Helping other is just like helping ourselves..."
Thursday, December 11, 2008
tHe dAy of editiNg blOg lAyout...
well.. from today onwards, i have to start preparing for my A-level examination as it is just around the corner.. apart from that, i will also publish post as frequent as possible and hopefully i am able to keep it as a habit. however, my desktop have to be repaired as it already invaded by some viruses... i shall be able to continue publish some posts few days later... really hope that i will pass my A-level with flying colour. All the best to you guys for everything you do! ^.^
"God will not help us unless we help ourselves..."
Blogging
For those who are forgetful...
Blogging can...
act as a tool
to note all the up and down in our daily lives...
For those who are playful...
Blogging can...
act as a tool
to build up our self-discipline...
For those who are tense...
Blogging can...
act as a tool
to release our tensionSSSSSSS...
For those who are shy...
Blogging can...
act as a tool
to voice out your opinions and emotions...
For those who are weak in Linguistic...
Blogging can...
act as a tool
to polish up your linguistic skills...
^.^ may you guys be well and happy always!
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Kiasi and Kiasu...
One who is kiasi or kiasu will suffer depression or more precisely will have higher stress level than ordinary people. Everything they do, they want to be number one and want to be perfect. This will indirectly increases their stress level as they will do over and over again on the same thing until it become perfect. Those who are kiasi and kiasu are very hard to feel enough with what they had achieved. We cannot deny that in this world full of competition, every second counts. Everyone is improving and it is hard to maintain on the top if you slow down a beat.
In addition, those kiasi and kiasu will have relatively less friends as they always want to win and they focus on the result rather than the process. They will chose to neglect their connection with their group members or coworker as for most of them this is not as important as the outcome. Furthermore, they will feel annoyed if their friends are ahead of them. This will make them hard to find a true friend as they do not pleased with their friends achievement. They like to mingle around with those who perform poorer than them or those he or she wins in certain aspect. This is hard for kiasi and kiasu people to find a friend in the same field with them.
Though we cannot deny that one who is kiasi and kiasu tends to be more enthusiasm than others and normally will perform better. The productivity might be high but the same goes to people who suffer from depression. Moreover, this will make the working environment tense and boring. It is hard to change from kiasi and kiasu, and if it does not bring problem to one daily life, change is not necessary.
"Enjoy your life when you are able to as life is short!"
why am i so kiasi and kiasu???
Soon after the release of my first external exam result, all my 'friends' just look down on me and some even ignored my present due to my poor performance. Those with good or acceptable result, they keep on celebrate over their triumph and totally ignored those who once their 'close friends'. Feeling down and shame over my result, I, alone sat at the corner of the class, and stopping my tears of disappointment from bursting. I felt very guilty over my playfulness and i was do not even border to prepare for that exam. Before that, i was full of confidence and felt that I had fully prepared. Eventually, the result shown the opposite was true. For the last few days of my schooling in primary, i spent lots of time to digest the great philosophy and of course to test and experience its reliability. I was walking alone at the school building that was newly built at the time, thinking over and over again why my 'friends' treat me totally different before and after the release of my result. At last, I have to admit that my mother was right on that point. Sadly, i had to face all the outcomes alone at school. Consequently, I turn my whole family members down.
On that 'big' day, when I was on the bus with my sister who is two years younger than me, i just lost of control over my emotion. When my sister keep on asking about my result, i just felt that she was teasing me in fact she was just think that my result was just unbelievable and of course unexpectedly bad and she want to confirm it. What I did was i gave her a slap on the bus in front of our friends and she just stunned there and i walked away angrily. Soon after that i regret over my action and she just forgave my.
When I reached home, I just let my tears out before my mother scold me over my poor performance. Surprisingly, my mother did not scold me which she used to be when my results are not up to standard. My dad who was away working return home just want to find out his playful son result. Of course, again i turned him down. On that day, there were lots of relatives called us, just want to know my performance after my elder sister good performance on that particular exam two years before. It is still fresh in my mind that whenever that phone rang on that day, my tears just burst out uncontrollably. My beloved parents have to answer all the call one by one while my heart being stabbed by the transparent knife each time the phone rang. My mom and my younger sister also cannot control over their tears and cried with me. I cried the hardest when i received my 'present' from my lovely elder sister and a letter which she wrote prior to the release of my result. In that letter, she told me that whatever my result is, she and our whole family members will still stay with me. Eventually this touched my broken heart and pleased it a bit. After a few days, my old friend at my previous primary school called me to asked for my result. At that time i calmed down. I wish that i will be better in the next external exam.
Before that, i was a boy full of confident on my academic as my result in the primary school was good and i had high expectation on my first ever external examination. As the saying goes, the higher the expectation, the deeper the disappointment. Commit suicide once came to my mind but my lovely elder sister who is just one year older than me keep on motivating me. My class teacher also consoled me by telling me not to give up and it was just a small and yet not important exam and i shall do better in future.
Since then, I seldom go to public places unless necessary scared of meeting relatives and friends who will ask about my poor performance. With this, i became kiasi and kiasu (fear to lose). What make thing worse is that i will not trust any of my friends easily as I will consider them as hypocrite. These has been hurting me deep in my heart until now. On the other hand, it makes me fight for everything I want and burn up my enthusiasm to be best of the best, and a head of the rest. I think i have become a perfectionist after that.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Book
Ions Treatment...
Some of the customers claimed that their pain which they have been suffering for decades ceased after undergo two weeks of that ions treatment. In addition, there are lots of hand-written posters state that how people feel better after that treatment. Some said that they no longer have insomnia and some claimed that their back pain stop.
However, the 'lecturer' just keep on giving information on how to use that machine instead of how it functioning. She said that using that machine it will help us to do treatment to our organs automatically and most interestingly is that the machine will carry out treatment for specific organ according to time throughout the day. Customers are allowed to try the machine daily for around 20 minutes per day and of course free of charge. We, as customers, just need to sit on the electrical chairs. We are not allowed to touch each other while undergo that treatment. Without knowing that, I touched my mom and we got 'electric shock', that voltage was high and it was deadly painful.
What made me curious is that how with using such a simple but expensive machine, the decease that we suffer for years can be cured just like that? What it machine functioning actually? and what are the side-effects of that magic machine?
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
What is the Thing that we really cannot live without it?
When I was first introduced to this topic the first thing that comes to my mind is FAMILY. Well, some might say that friend is the most significant thing in this planet while the other might think that wealth takes bigger part of their life. There are also people who have the opinion that health should come first after all. However, I strongly believe that family should top the list base on they are those who understand us the most, they will never betray us and they will share with us all the ups and downs in our lives. Before dive in into the topic, I would like to explain what I mean by the word family members. To me, family members are those who stay with us in the sense our parents, spouse, children and also siblings.
First and foremost, family members are those who understand us the most. When we first come to this wonderful world, the first person who we see is our parents and they are also the one who bring us up. Before we go school, the one who teaches us how to speak and perhaps how to walk and run are our parents especially our housewife mother. Not to mention about all the moral values and virtuous principals in order to survive successfully in this competitive world that taught by both our parent. Just imagine how are we going to survive without those lovely parents when we are just kids? We do not know how to communicate and not even know how to consume rice; our parent will definitely the one who teaches us this entire basic staff. Some might argue that both of their parents are working parents and the one who teaches him or her all these basic survival skills are their grandparents (who I shall consider them as the family members) or the nurseries. Bear in mind, what do our parents do when they left you with your grandparents or at the nursery? For sure they are not hanging around and do nothing. We have to understand that they need to earn a living for the whole family. In this case, they are still play a major role as the bread winners for our family.
Apart from that, family member will never betray us, or I shall put it as they are less likely to do so. As the saying sounds blood is thick than water, it is certain that the probability of our family members to stab our back is much lower than that of a friends. There is once a great author mentioned that if we want to look at what is the perfect love, the love of a mother to her child will do. Moreover, we can observe from what happen around us or may be what had happen to you, there are lots of our ‘friends’ who will not hesitate to backstab others in order to make themselves outweigh the people around them. A friend of mine had once experienced this. He was sick and unable to attend a particular class and he asked one of his so called ‘best friends’ to take notes for him. Unfortunately, what happen was the friend of him do give him notes that are ‘going to come out for the exam’ but it is not the actual notes given by the lecturer on that day. Eventually, my friend failed his exam and his friend obtained full marks for that particular subject. After all, do you still think that friend is the one who we really cannot live without? I, personally stand on the other side of the coin.
Some might claim that health should be considered as the most essential thing in our lives. In addition, it should come before wealth as the saying health is wealth. Without health, one cannot have wealth. One is unable to work if one is in serious illness. Even if he possesses all the best things in the world, without health, he still not able enjoys them. Furthermore, some might claim that without health, one will not have time to spend with their love one and also their family members. On the other hand, I personally agree that health should come before wealth in the sense that without health, wealth is meaningless. However, I stand firm on my point that family member is the thing that we really cannot live without; as in without them, though we own million or trillions of dollars, we will still feel lonely and isolated as there is still nobody to share with us all our dry and wet in lives. No man is an island. Even a healthy person still needs someone to walk with him or her throughout his or her live. In this case, family members will be the best choice as in they are those will share with us whatever we possesses outmost sincerely.
In a nutshell, I would like to restate that family members are those we cannot afford to lose in order to lead a meaningful life. Family members are those who know us the most, those who we can really rely on and off course those who will never leave us no matter how bad the condition we are in. What would a life without family members be? I, as an ordinary people, would never like to figure out...
-in retrospect-
looking backward or reviewing the past, especially with the advantage of knowing more now than you did then...
Monday, November 17, 2008
holiday plan..
What to do in this precious holiday?
Work? Definitely out of my plan.
After 'fighting' for few months, really need a rest now..
But, i feel that it is simply a waste of time if i just play throughout this holiday..
It is better to do some revision as i am going to take my A-Level next summer.
and of course i will hang out with my old friends..
and visit my secondary school.. teachers and juniors.
haha.. just cannot imagine how they look like now..
and definitely, i will try my best to publish as many posts as possible during this holiday..
i want to keep it as a habit.. ^.^
third semester...
Really hope that this time i can maintain what i had achieved for last semester.
To sum up my study throughout this semester, generally i think that i did not perform that well this semester. All my results dropped this semester and i did not really prepare for all those tests and quizzes throughout this semester. i had new lecturers this semester and it take time for me to suit their style of teaching. One of the most significant changes is that in semester, i need to find out the concepts that we need to understand for that particular subject instead of all provided by the lecturers which is totally different form the previous semesters. What make thing worst is that i did not revise after lecture for this semester even for those lessons that i did not understand. Really regret now. But i know that it is useless to cry over split milk. What i can do now is PRAY hard. Hopefully i still can get the result that i want this semester.
Really have lots of catch up to do this holiday!
Thanks
Though the result is not that good, i still feel thankful to those lent me a hand in my preparation. really thanks a lot!
THANK YOU!
May God bless you guys!
I will still continue writing and publish my so called essays here..
really hope that someone may leave a comment here..
^.^
Monday, August 18, 2008
Life style...
First and foremost, I, as a adolescence, think that carry out the same things everyday is boring. Wake up on 6.30am, go to school on 7.30am until 4.00pm, follow by doing the homework in the evening without any other activities. Do you think that this is the life style that works best for you? Even without any single activity other than those related to books? For me, this type of life is not a colourful and yet unhealthy life style. At least, we should put in some time for work out and also some for social interaction in the case mingle around with our classmates or friends.
We cannot deny that changes mean challenges to some people, yet trying out different things will expose us to various kinds people in the world. When you join different club you will meet different people with different interest. For instance, when you join a band, you will meet people who love music and play musical instruments meanwhile when you join a linguistic society, you can mix with people who like to enhance their linguistic knowledge. The more kinds of people we meet, the more suitable people that can help us in various situations. However, this also means that the more time we have to spend on catching up with them, yet, there will be more people that we can share our up in down in our lives.
On the other hand, some might claim that doing the same thing repeatedly may makes us master that particular technique. As the saying, 'Practise makes perfect.' We have to accept that the more times we do a thing, the better the result it will give, in the case of correct and proper practice. For example, when we practise playing an instrument over and over again under supervision of a qualified coach, we will master that instrument in the end. However, what if we do not have that particular gene in ourselves? What if one just do not have that talent? We cannot deny that if he or she practice continuously, he or she might success at the end, but how many people in todays world have that perseverance and determination to do so after failure by failure? One might just give up and think that he cannot success in ones entire life! Thus, sometime trying up new things will help us to uncover our hidden talents.
In short, i, personally think that we need some changes in our daily lives in order to meet people from all walk of lives, discover our new talents and also carry out the same routine is such a boring and meaningless life. In our life, we still need certain amount of challenges in order to make it more lively and more meaningful.
"Enjoy you life and try out new things as it might give you a better and wonderful life."
Sunday, August 17, 2008
Friend??
Since the creation of mankind, human have been searching for companionship. Friendship is simply one of those basic instinct that we need in our lives. As the saying, 'No man is an island.' It is true that one cannot survive in this world which full of competition alone. However some might say that they are able to do so. But before you claim that you can, just think that are you able to live even without your family members, friends or co-worker??
For me, friends play a major role in my live. With their help, complicated tasks might seem easy. Whenever there is a big project to be done, i always get help from my friends, and i prefer to work in group as we can share the burden. Beside that, we can also share our information that we get from various sources. When we are sick and absent for classes, there is always someone who is willing to help us. Take notes for us, tell us what is happening in classes and also what lecturer taught on that particular days. When we are down, they will just turn up and console us, share with us our problem, not to mention during our up time.
But, we cannot deny that there is always some people who are in the category which come to you when you are success and just evaporate from the Earth when you fail to do some tasks. The whole world will laugh with you and you have to cry alone. This is the reality in today's community. What makes thing worst is when someone you trust betray you. Can you imagine what is the feeling when your secrete pass back to you from others? There is also those who tend to build their happiness on others' sufferances. They tend to pull your legs, and when you get angry, they will just teasing you and laughing at your monkey face when their tricks success.
In conclusion, we have to be careful when picking a friend. If you found out that one cannot be trusted, just make him a nodding head friend. Do not be stupid to share with someone your secrete who you just meet. We know how hurt is it when someone betraying us or gossiping about us, so do not ever do that on others s we do not what that happen on us or those who we care. Think twice before you act as it might hurt someone you really care about.
"TREAT OTHERS THE WAY AS YOU WANT THEM TO TREAT YOU"
Monday, June 30, 2008
Puppy Love??
First and foremost, most of the teenagers do not understand themselves well yet, and how can we expect them to understand their partner well? Without understand each other well before starting a relationship will just end up with breakup. Teenagers have yet to confirm what they in need in their life due to their immaturity in thinking. They still cannot be sure whether they like or love someone. In this period, teenagers tend to 'fall in love' with someone easily.
Today I might 'like' A and next week I feel that I 'love' B more. C is suitable to be my girlfriend while D is my ideal wife. So, do you think that this can be consider as they are ready for a relationship?
In addition, most of the students cannot pay attention on their study while they are in a relationship, especially at the beginning of it which most of them still feel curious about each other. They tend to stick together wherever they go and 'discuss' on whatever topics that are available from their daily live till the the neighbours' new born cats and dogs. We cannot deny that this is one of the ways to release their study tension, but what from I see is that they tend to to have million of 'fresh' topics to chat with each other all the time until they have no time for study or even touch on the topic that just taught by their teacher. They may just chat until midnight, having pillow talk is a need for those young couples. They just cannot fall asleep before chatting or sms with the other one.
Apart from that, I personally think that teenagers have yet to know their roles and responsibilities in a relationship. Most of them are still blur with what is their role as a boyfriend or girlfriend. Some might think that it is enough if he or she always hang around with their partner or turn up whenever their partner called. But the fact is that it is just a little part of the iceberg. There are still lots need to be done to be consider as a good partner.
On the other hand, some might say that the couples can exchange their knowledge and helping each other in their study. This will be kind of group study which is a good reason for them to hang out together all the time. However, normally their group study will end up with group chatting and this will cause their results drop drastically. They will just put their homework aside and go out dating as dating seem more interesting and important to them. Time will just flies and in the end the young couple cannot catch up with their studies.
Furthermore, not every teenager can handle the effect of break up well. We cannot deny that some of them will just take it easy or will just in bad mood for a day or two. However de facto is that there a lot of the teenagers will take it seriously. Some of them may even lose their self-confidence since then. They might not be in mood for weeks or months. During that period, they will also not touch their books or cannot concentrate on their study. Some of them may even take revenge on the other. If thing goes serious, he or she may even commit suicide or hurts or kills the other one.
To sum up, I think that secondary school students should not start a relationship due to they cannot understand each other well, they cannot concentrate in their study, they do not know their responsibility well and they cannot face and handle the tragedy of break up yet. A little piece of advice here is that do not start a relationship until you know each other well and be 100% sure that that guy is going to be your future spouse. Although I may seem out-dated but I think that it is one of the ways prevent tragedy takes place.
" Take each date as if it is your last, so that you know how to give;
Take each relationship as if it is your last, so that you know how to appreciate."
#please point out my spelling and grammar mistakes. comments are welcome. sorry for the mistakes.